It’s Time To Heal From The Affair.
The anger and pain are fierce - one minute there is tears the next minute rage. There is no place in your relationship now that feels safe and secure. It’s like everything has been turned upside down. Now more than ever you need your partner’s closeness and soothing but because the state of your relationship is in such a shambles you can no longer access it. Telling others you are close to is humiliating so you are alone in your pain trying to manage all the feelings that come up.
Do you stay…. do you go?
It’s so confusing because suddenly you are having more sex than you’ve had in years. Your relationship in some ways feels rejuvenated like you both woke up but just figuring out something simple like what to eat for lunch feels impossible. It’s no wonder, you’re not sure who you or your partner are anymore or what your relationship means.
How can you figure out what to do when you have no idea what this affair meant about your relationship?
Do you know that most relationships survive infidelity?
It’s true. This event does not have to color the rest of your relationship if you address it deeply. It’s occurred for a reason and it’s here as a messenger to teach you more about how both of your relational and sexual needs were being overlooked in your relationship. Accessing curiosity to learn more about why and how this happened will actually illuminate the parts of your relationship which need shoring up.
Affair recovery involves a 3 part treatment process:
Phase 1: The Crisis - This is the phase where you learn to be able to have the hard conversations without falling apart.
Phase 2: Meaning Making - In this phase of counseling you will discover how and why this happened, sort out how the disconnection from each other contributed to the infidelity, and finally what it means for the future of your relationship.
Phase 3: Revisioning - In this final phase of couples counseling you will create a vision of what you want moving forward in your relationship and implement the changes to affair-proof your relationship for the future.
Let me help you make the necessary meaning-making needed to course-correct your relationship and get it back on track - better than before! If you are ready to heal from the affair, call (215) 272-1161 or click below to book your free consult for affair recovery counseling via telehealth if you live in Maryland or Pennsylvania.